I'm Hurt
Have you ever been hurt?
Everyone has one time or another. But how can we protect our self from being so vulnerable?
You could harden your heart and build walls around you so thick no one can get near you.... But that's very lonely. Or maybe you could stuff the pain away somewhere where you can't see it and just keep ignoring it.... But then, sooner or later, you just might explode. And that could get messy.
Some dull pain with drugs or food. That's hard on your body, to say the very least, but does it fix the problem? .... No, just makes it worse.
I suppose there are many unhealthy ways you could try to deal with the hurt,... but there is another way... There is a godly way to protect yourself.
God's will is wellness - That means God wants you whole in every area of your life including emotional health. But how can you be healed from the pain and protect yourselves from more emotional hurts?
This may sound strange at first, but give it a chance here. God has built a protection plan for us.
But you must be willing to let Him work it in you.
To protect yourself consider some of Gods ways of doing things;
- Do not look to your spouse to make you happy.
- Do not depend on family or loved ones to make you feel welcomed or accepted.
- Do not look to your friends to make you feel like you belong.
- Do not depend on your church to be your primary spiritual leader.
All these things are given to you by God and it's God's will for all of them to be a blessing to you. But never give them the number one place in your heart that belongs to God alone.
You'll be Disappointed
If you look to your spouse to make you happy, you will be disappointed at some level. To Count on a spouse to fulfill you is setting your self up as an easy target to be hurt. When hurt and disappointment come, thinking like the world might become an option. The word divorce arises and may sound like some kind of a solution.
God says He hates divorce. Marriage is sacred. It supernaturally makes two people one. Divorce is ripping two people in half as bad as if it would be with blood and guts and making the children watch.
The hurt that stems from divorce can literally cause some people to be overtaken by sickness. The whole family shudders with trauma and many lives may never be the same.
The only one who can fulfill you is your Creator. He will never disappoint you and will prove it as you trust Him. God can even heal broken relationships. The first one being your relationship between You and God. Jesus must be your true love. Then He causes love to bloom again all around you. Sometimes in ways you don't expect.
If God becomes the one you count on to make you happy, He will go beyond that and give you joy. You will be fulfilled in God alone. The pressure of codependency is off and you're free to love others no strings attached.
Maybe you were hurt by members of your family. For what ever reason, your own family members can turn against you and mistreat you. It could've happened when you were a child, or during your your teenage years, it can even happen when you're an adult. Deep hurts can become embedded in the very cells in your body. The pain could last a lifetime if not dealt with by God. But if God is invited to come into the midst of the pain and reveal Himself there He will bring healing. He is the only one who can.
The world teaches to relying on your self or some other person or thing but they all eventually will come up short, and it will ultimately be disappointing. God is the only one who can perfectly love you for who you are. He loves you unconditionally. He knows what you need and how to take care of you.
God's will is that you trust Him alone... Have Faith of God. Rely only on God.
God's door is always open to you. He longs to welcome you as a cherished member of His very own family. All of heaven waits in intensity to see if you will accept the invitation as they anticipate the joy of the Father hoping His child will come home.
Oh if you would only know how welcomed and accepted you Are in God! Our Father does not wait for you to beg His forgiveness but rather He runs toward you even if you are a far off. Your needs of being welcomed and accepted can again be fulfilled in God alone.
Perfect Love
We all have an inherent need to want to belong. Friendships are an important gift from God and a friend can be even closer than a brother but they cannot take the place reserved for only God in your heart. No one is capable of filling that place but God Himself. No one else is Perfect Love.
In time friendships can fade when you simply
loose touch with each other. Some friends have been known to become enemies. Betrayal
is a hurt hard to get over. You can save yourself some serious hurt if you learn to keep everyone in their proper place in your life.
What about the Church
The church also has its proper place in your life. Don't forsake the gathering of yourself together for each one of us is a gift from God to each other. The church is one body and we all are members of that body all in our proper place. We need each other to build each other up, fellowship is important.
Respect your leaders for the office
that they hold but be careful not to put them on a pedestal. To set them
up high creates a situation that can make you vulnerable. If they fail
to be perfect in your eyes you could become disillusioned and
disappointed. You may become offended or feel betrayed forgetting that
they are just human. You could even become bitter toward the church
itself.
God is the only one who is perfect. He must be the one that you look up to. Ultimately God is your number one spiritual leader. The Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth. God is the one that should be high on a pedestal and no matter what man does we continue to worship Him and Him alone. The Holy Spirit is the only mediator between God and you. He only wants your good and will heal your hurt.
Organized religion can make mistakes and people are imperfect but God has always had a people that has remained faithful to Him through out the ages. Don't focus on “people” even if they are Spiritual Leaders per say, but look to Jesus. People can fail you Jesus cannot.
We can even hurt ourselves when we choose to either do the wrong things or don't do the things we know we should. We can't even trust our self. No one really knows how to perfectly do the right thing even if we desire to do it right.(Rom 7:)
There is Another Way
There is a much better way. What I am talking about here is not a casual relationship. I'm not talking about going to the church on Sunday and hardly talking to God the rest of the week. For God to be, your shield, you must have a personal strong relationship with Him.
It's God who will do the work in you if you allow Him to do it, just follow His lead. Real Christianity is a growing, life giving, completely sold out relationship with God, relying on God Himself to do the work in you.
Jesus is your loving faithful husband. God is your father and mother brother and sister. The Holy Spirit is your spiritual leader. God is the great I am He is everything you will ever need. Put Him in His proper place in your life and He will quite literally become everything that you need. Allow God to be your first love. Fix your eyes on Him and no one else before Him.
Laying down your burdens before God. You can trust Him to carry it for you.
Putting God first in your life is not
just.. 'a saying', it's a command for your good! If you want to protect yourself, it must
become literal for you personally.
It is not good for man to be
alone, spouses are amazingly good. Children are a blessing. Family and friends are given to us as bonuses and are great blessings, yet God must be our number one.
Church is given to us for our benefit, but God Himself must be by far our spiritual leader. In the New Covenant we are all taught of God Himself.
Celebrate
when those around you do good and are a blessing to you. Look at them through the eyes of Grace when they fail. That's how God looks at us. But don't
count on anyone including yourself.
Only count on God.
It Doesn't Matter
Focus your eyes on God. We cannot change our self we must rely on God and trust that He will change us from the inside out.
What others think of you really- Really does Not matter. Alone, they are but dust. Inferiority and insecurity, which are at the roots of so many strongholds in the minds of people, will loose their power over you if you are focused on God. God is truly the only One who's opinion of us matters.
It
doesn't even matter what you think of yourself. Go to the Word of God
and read who God says you are. We ARE who the Word of God says we are whether or not you 'feel like it'. What the Word of God says
we can do, we can do. Only by focusing on Jesus can we do all things
through Christ who strengthens us.
God Focused On You
Did you know that Almighty God is focused on you? He Loves you so very much. Gods will is to have a personal relationship with you. Your victory for everything is in Christ and His shed blood. It's all about the cross and what Jesus Did and it's not at all about what we do. It's Grace not works.
Jer 31:3 "Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you. NKJV Jer 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; NKJV
Keep your eyes focused on Jesus and on 'No One Else.' That's a
key to how we can protect ourselves from being so vulnerable and easily
hurt.
They can't hurt you like
they Did before!
It becomes much easier for you Not to pick-up the offense when someone offends you because they can't hurt you like they did before. Why? Because you are not expecting them to fulfill your needs or appreciate you.
You are not looking to them for approval or to esteem you valuable or even to love you. You don't need it like you did anymore if God fulfills all those needs. He fulfills tangibly if you let Him. Seek Him with all your heart, surrender to Him, allow Him to fulfill you.
When you look to God instead
of people He can quite literally become your shield. He stands between
you and those who would hurt you. It is for you to choose not to be
dependent on them but put all your dependency on the Lord. Prov 30:5
“Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who put their trust
in Him.” NKJV
Bible Verses...
Ps 27:9-11
O God of my salvation.
10 When my father and my mother forsake me,
Then the Lord will take care of me.
11 Teach me Your way, O Lord,NKJV
Jesus said...Matt 10:37 "If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine; or if you love your son or daughter more than me, you are not worthy of being mine. (Holy Bible, New Living Translation).
The MESSAGE Bible puts it this way... Matt 10:34-37 "Don't think I've come to make life cozy. I've come to cut — make a sharp knife-cut between son and father, daughter and mother, bride and mother-in-law — cut through these cozy domestic arrangements and free you for God. Well-meaning family members can be your worst enemies. If you prefer father or mother over me, you don't deserve me. If you prefer son or daughter over me, you don't deserve me.” (Message Bible)
2 Cor 1:3-4
3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. NKJV
You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. (Psalm 32:7)
Then they cried out to the Lord in their trouble, and He saved them out of their distresses. (Psalm 107: 19 NKJV)
(Jesus said) "come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28 – 30)
Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.(James 4:8)
Trust God To Heal You
God knows the end from the beginning, you can trust Him. The stress of life melts away as you continually daily fix your eyes on Him for your every need and even your very existence. Ps 124:7 Those who trust in the Lord Are like Mount Zion, Which cannot be moved, but abides forever. NKJV
God wants His people healed of every hurt they have suffered. This is written that you might know the Truth. The only one who can save and heal from all hurts is God Himself.
He is willing to heal you. Are you willing to let Him? Some hold on to hurts because of some lie that they harbor. For example, Anger is used to cover up more vulnerable emotions. Whats under your anger? How would you feel if anger was no longer available to you?
God will not force you to give up your anger. You must be
willing to give it to Him even if you have a good reason to be angry. The
challenge is to make the decision to surrender it all to God and let God
carry your truth based pain. It can be removed completely off of you.
Isa 53:4 Surely He has borne our griefs And carried our sorrows; NKJV
Reason With God
Reason with Him, go to Him now and lift up your hurt to Him. Ask Him to speak to you personally about the pain you feel and what you really believe about yourself. When it comes down to it there may be things hidden deep inside that even you are not consciously aware of.
Ask God to reveal any lies you may believe about yourself
and let Him speak Truth to you through His Word. You are more precious that silver and gold. Find out who you really are in Christ. Believe He will answer and He will begin to
work a great work in you. God can speak Truth into your life though many ways. God wants to
heal your hurts and set you free from the pain.
Ps 42:5-6 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance. O my God, my soul is cast down within me;
Heb 10:36-38 For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise:
But it Sounds Like It's Painful
Taking
your pain to God and allowing Him to expose what is inside of you can be uncomfortable even
painful. But after you let God take it from you healing you , a glorious New Life
begins Free of pain! God doesn't just cover up the pain, He removes it
like surgery and then heals you without a scar.
It's important to learn about forgiveness. For your own benefit seek a deeper understanding, you may be surprise what you find. God adds understanding the more time we spend with Him the more we learn. Learning more about the Scriptures will increase your faith. Jesus also enables you to forgive others through Grace and His Gift of Forgiveness.
You can do this. It's between you and God alone. Trust Him and expect Him to answer you... and He will.
( Luke 10:18-20 NKJV) And He (Jesus) 18. said to them, "I saw Satan fall like lightning from
heaven. 19 Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and
scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any
means hurt you. 20 Nevertheless do not rejoice in this, that the
spirits are subject to you, but rather rejoice because your names are
written in heaven."
The
hardest part is making the decision to allow God do the work in you. Don't be
afraid, God is tender and will help you as He works all that you have
gone through out for your good. It is amazing how He does that. Trust
Him. Don't put any limitations on Him, let Him work it out.
Being Independent of all others and dependent only on One God makes you Strong in Him. It gives you peace that is beyond understanding. And turns you into an instrument that the Lord can use for His Glory if He so chooses.
You become pliable in His hands like the clay in the potters hand. He can make of you whatsoever He chooses. You just stand there and watch Him work.
He can set you on a shelf to dry or place you in the fire. You trust Him to do the best for you. He can use you in any way He chooses. You belong to Him. You don't even need to know what He is doing or how He is doing it but you can rest in His finished work.
More Than Enough
God promises to supply our every need all by Himself. The order is... God first and then He adds the blessings of others for us that we may have more than enough. Phil 4:19-20 And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. NKJV.
Ultimately Rev 21:4 "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away." NKJV.
Ps 71:1-3 In You, O Lord, I put my trust; Let me never be put to shame. Deliver me in Your righteousness, and cause me to escape; Incline Your ear to me, and save me. Be my strong refuge, To which I may resort continually; You have given the commandment to save me, For You are my rock and my fortress. NKJ.
Ps 146:5-10 Happy is he who has the God of Jacob for his help, Whose hope is in the Lord his God, Who made heaven and earth, The sea, and all that is in them; Who keeps truth forever, Who executes justice for the oppressed, Who gives food to the hungry. The Lord gives freedom to the prisoners. 9;The Lord watches over the strangers; He relieves the fatherless and widow;
God will never leave you. Even if you can't see it - yet. Remember the story of the foot steps in the sand? He takes care of His own whether you are aware of it or not.. God is constantly watching over you.
3 John :2 Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.KJV
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